Lately, Sprout demands to wear a dress every morning. The twirlier the better, because “You can’t twirl without a dress!”
The only problem is, she has a finite number of dresses, and they’re not always the best outfit for, say, playing in the sandbox at school.
Sometimes we convince her that there’s a logical reason to wear something other than a dress if the situation requires it. Other times we make lots of first-thing-in-the-morning compromises.
And then there was this morning, where she got upset about the dress we said she could wear tomorrow.
“But I don’t want to wear the carousel dress! It’s not twirly!”
Okay, so on a scale of one to Vera-Ellen, I concede that this dress isn’t her most twirly.
But that’s not the point.
I asked Sprout to come over and talk, and I told her:
I know you’re upset. I hear you. But we’re only going to feel today today.
It was one of those moments where I take a step back and realize that I’m saying this as much for myself as I am for her.
There are times when we let ourselves fill up with anticipatory pain. The bad feelings of things yet-to-come.
But each day has more than enough feelings to feel on its own. You’ve got plenty of things to feel today. Maybe even some good feelings you haven’t anticipated.
Make room for them.